Between fittings for the dress and tasting different cakes and picking out the rings and researching and hiring all the different services that go into a wedding, choosing our music had been the last thing on our minds.
Weโd hired the DJ months ago, put the packet we were to send back to him a month-and-a-half before the big day was left untouched until the last possible second.
In it, we were to list 10 or so songs we wanted him to play, a couple songs that we definitely did NOT want him to play, what songs we wanted to announce the bridal party/bride and groom/the first dance/cutting the cake/bouquet/garter/etc./etc., and whether weโd be doing any special dances that would need musical accompaniment.
I had to look up what a money dance is, and the concept is still a little bizarre to me. But I digress.
When we DID finally sit down to list our songs of choice, I found myself turning to friends and the internet for recommendations, as someone whoโs never personally been to a formal, DJโd wedding before. Of course we werenโt hand-picking the exact playlist that would be played during all four hours of the wedding — although loading up Spotify on someoneโs phone and plugging it into a speaker would be cheaper, a phone canโt facilitate a corny YMCA dance-off the way a live DJ can — but even having to choose 10 songs seemed like a lot.
Alas, weโre still two months out from our actual wedding so I canโt deliver the results of my findings yet, but I can share some of the advice and song do’s-and-don’ts Iโve garnered during my research. Please, share some of your own findings with me and Iโll add those here, too!
Pre-Ceremony Music
For when your guests are arriving to the ceremony and finding their seats.
Play: Music that sets the tone for the ceremony and the rest of the evening. You want your guests to be excited for whatโs to come.ย Some couples opt for religious music here, while others go for the traditional, like โA Rose Is Gently Blooming” Op. 122, No. 8 by Johannes Brahms or “Air on the G String” by Johann S. Bach. More contemporary popular choices include โWonderful Tonightโ by Eric Clapton, โTrulyโ by Lionel Richie or โWedding Songโ by The Band.
Do not play: โEvery Breath You Takeโ by The Police. Itโs not romantic and never will be!!!
Processional Music
For when the bridal party is walking down the aisle.
Play: The guests will be most excited to see the bride come walking in, so the music here might be chosen to pull at some heartstrings and evoke an emotional response.
โCanโt Help Falling in Loveโ by Elvis is always on heavy rotation at weddings around the world and can fit into almost any part of the ceremony/reception, but it fits especially well into the highly-anticipatory processional. โOver the Rainbowโ by Israel Kamakawiwo’ole is a beautiful and light cover of The Wizard of Oz classic, thatโs especially poignant at a beach ceremony. โWild Horsesโ by The Rolling Stones or The Sundays is another solid choice.
Do not play: โMy Heart Will Go Onโ by Celine Dion, unless the brideโs first lover drowned in a way that was similar to Jack in Titanic, and this is her way to honor his memory. Otherwise,โRoseโs Themeโ by James Horner and The Studio Sound Ensemble is another rendition from the movie thatโs free of vocals and a little less morbid.
Bridal Entrance Music
For when the bride is making her grand entrance.
Play: Of course, the traditional Wedding March/โHere Comes the Brideโ is a given at most weddings, but one might also opt for the traditional โCanon in Dโ by Pachelbel.
Cocktail Hour
For when the bride and groom and bridal party are probably off getting photographed on the beach, and everyone else is mingling by the bar.
Play: Something happy and upbeat to keep the good times rolling! Like โHow Sweet It Is (To Be Loved By You)โ by Marvin Gaye, โStuck Like Glueโ by Sugarland and โThis Will Be (An Everlasting Love)โ by Natalie Cole.
Do not play: โShotsโ by Lil Jon. The party is just getting started and you want it to last at least a few more hours.
First Dance
For when the bride and groom are having their first dance, of course — this tends to be the most difficult part of the musical decision-making process.
Play: Itโs another good time to throw some Elvis on, but according to Spotify, the three most popular first dance songs are โThinking Out Loudโ by Ed Sheeran, โAt Lastโ by Etta James and โYou Are The Best Thingโ by Ray LaMontagne. Whether you go traditional (โMy Girlโ by the Temptations), classic (โAll of Meโ by John Legend) or a little more contemporary (โHo Heyโ by the Lumineers), all that really matters here is that the bride and groom are happy and savoring the moment.
Do not play: โI Will Always Love You.โ I love Dolly as much as the next gal, but dancing to this song just seems like a really bad omen.
Dinner
For dinnertime, when the music accompanies the sound of conversation and the clinking of silverware.
Play: All the bride and groomโs favorite low-key happy/romantic songs. Itโs not time to get on the dance floor quite yet, and most people may not be paying TOO much attention to the music at this point in the evening, so here you can just play some upbeat, easy-listening songs. This is where many DJs break out the Michael Buble.
Do not play: Michael Buble. Unless you absolutely have to.
Dance Time!
For when itโs time to let loose and have fun.
Play: Now you can play โShotsโ by Lil Jon, if thatโs really the atmosphere youโre going for (to each their own). Some DJs recommend that you start with one slower song to get couples out dancing on the floor, then immediately play dance music to keep them there and having fun. The Village People, the Bee Gees, the Black Eyed Peas, Whitney Houstonโฆ The options are endless!
Do not play: โWhite Weddingโ by Billy Idol. Not a happy wedding song.
